I have come to a conclusion in the past 16 years. Friendships are awkward and clumsy when the person you are married to has the title of “pastor”. It’s not him that gets in the way; It’s his title, position, and authority.
Rob and I are a package deal. His “pastor-ness” is not expendable. Neither am I able to remove myself from the position of “pastor’s wife” even if and when I want to (which I don’t). It’s our calling, our passion, our giftedness. We each serve a different role in this calling, but we are a team.
I am not sure what fizzles out my friendships. Is it a fear of being found out? Being asked to serve? Not being “up” on theology? Do I just look funny?
It is heartbreaking to me when I feel a friendship “fizzling out” for one of these, or some unknown reason.
What do you do when a friendship “Fizzles Out”?