There is a new site for Pastor's wives called Clutch. a few weeks ago they interviewed me. I thought I'd share it here just for fun.
Husband: Rob Wegner
Family: Madeline-10, Whitney-8, and Isabelle-5
Occupation: Stay at home Mom, but I have picked up a few babysitting and puppy sitting jobs in the neighborhood to make ends meet. I am the only mom that stays home in my neighborhood, so it works out well for me!
Church: Granger Community Church, Granger, Indiana
Years Married: 15
How did you two meet?
Rob and I attended the same church growing up. When I was 12 and he was 15, he became good friends with my older brothers. It was love at first sight for both of us. We were best friends first, but started dating when I was 16 and he was 19. We were married when I was 19. I have never regretted being married so young.
How long have you been a PW?
16 years- Rob started working at GCC right out of college. I followed him here after we got married.
What is something you wish church members knew or understood about you (or your family)?
We love to see GCC friends in public and say hi, but my children get confused when people start crying and telling their dad their problems at the mall or the McDonald’s play area.
What is your favorite way to partner with your husband in ministry?
I love hands-on ministry in India or at Son City Kids, our ministry to the children of inner-city South Bend.
What's the hardest thing about being a PW?
Making and maintaining friendships.
What are some of the perks of being married to a pastor?
Of course the very spiritual answer would be “all the changed lives” , but other pastor’s wives know that already soo…
- Traveling with him to India and seeing the Taj Mahal.
- Conferences that are located in WARM places during the winter.
- I got to eat lunch sitting next to President Jimmy Carter and his wife Roslyn once. That was a pretty big perk.
In what ways would you still like to grow in your role as a PW?
I love the age and stage our children are at right now, but it really limits my “hands-on” time for ministry. I am really looking forward to the day when I can travel to India more often with Rob, not just to see exotic things like the Taj Mahal, but to serve women and children of the third world. I look forward to the day when I can invest more of my life there.
How do you help your kids deal with the pressures of being pastor's kids?
My kids are pretty fortunate to be raised in such an amazing community and church. I rarely see our church members treating our children any differently than the other children at our church. Our senior pastor, Dr. Mark Beeson and his wife Sheila paved the way for us in the way they raised their children in this same community and church. They did not allow their children to have special privileges or use the term P.K. with them. Neither do we.
What is the most meaningful thing you do to support your husband?
Being a dutiful housewife (sarcasm intended). I am not Suzie Home-maker, but I do my best to maintain our household at a level that brings peace and happiness to all. This is really hard considering I have rheumatoid arthritis and have three extrememly spirited little girls.
Do you have any PW mentors?
I sure do.
- Gail MacDonald has been an amazing friend and mentor to me in many ways. She is a fountain of wisdom, and she speaks to the deepest part of me.
- Sheila Beeson, our senior pastor’s wife is an amazing wife and mother to her grown children. She and Mark did so many things right in raising their kids, I just want to be like her.
What's playing on your iPod?
I don’t have an iPod, but I do have a Zune, which was supposed to be my Christmas present. (I accidentally opened it because the package had my name on it.)
I just downloaded Handel's Messiah. It's a huge part of my personal Christmas tradition every year. The girls don't appreciate it, so I listen with my headphones.
Other stuff that's on it:
John Denver (don't laugh)
Your husband is a pastor at a church with four weekend services (2 on Saturday and 2 on Sunday), how do you manage that weekend schedule?The girls and I usually attend Saturday nights when Rob is on. It's easier for me to get them ready in the evening than the morning. I used to attend several services before we had kids. I really wish I still could, but with 3 kids, it's just too much.
Have you encountered any "expectations" in that regard?Nope, none whatsoever.
How do you like to spend your husband's day off?
Sleeping in, going out to breakfast together if the girls are at school, hanging around home, going hiking, having family pizza/movie night so I don’t have to cook.