The Pastor's wife Q&A I mentioned in my last post has created a remarkable amount of buzz in the pastor's wife world. It's a secret society that meets when everyone else is sleeping or watching The Biggest Loser
I think that a lot of women that read these questions thought they were the only one who felt these things.
I'm going to answer a few of the questions that were asked at the Q&A to the best of my ability. There were so many questions, I will post a few answers at a time.
· How do you balance your family life with ministry life?
I think of all the questions that the Pastor's wives asked, this one came up the most often. Pastors in full time ministry are often married to a person who wants to be serving just as much as the pastor. This worked GREAT for me and Rob before we had children. We both worked full time together in the Youth Ministry. It was great to work together, we shared absolutely everything about our lives together. There was no frustration or lack of understanding when we were trying to talk about our day, because we both had been together all day.
Since we have had children, that has all changed. When Maddie was a baby, she just tagged along with us. We took her to all our meetings. I literally put her down for her naps in a closet (it was a large closet, she was in her pack-n-play). I hardly felt a difference at all with my involvement in ministry.Then Whitney was born 18 months later, and everything changed. 2 toddlers at a meeting was way too much to handle. Babysitters got expensive, so I found myself having to stay at home a lot more.
When Isabelle was born, I was really really sick for a year or so. We hardly left the house. Ministry was a thing of a distant memory. It hurt my heart when Rob got to do all this amazing stuff and I didn't get to help at all.
I slowly began to realize that my sacrifice was enabling God's work to be done. It is all about God getting the glory in the end, not me. If I hadn't stayed home with the girls, their lives would have been chaotic, Rob would come home to a chaotic household, and everything would be in pieces. My staying home has been the glue that has held our house together.
It's been hard. BUT, it has been so worth it. Now that the girls are a little older, I am able to be a bit more involved in ministry. As I look back on the last 8 years or so of taking a more reserved approach to ministry, I feel like it was hardly any time at all.
God works all things for the good of those who love Him and are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28