7:30pm. The enchanted hour. The time when we get to kick our shoes off and stretch out on the couch, eat Oreo's, or a half a pint of Ben and Jerry's or a whole box of Girl Scout Cookies….all things we would never do in front of our children. We watch TV shows that stimulate our intellect, or turn them to mush-doesn't matter.
7:30pm, that glorious, wonderful, magical time.
7:30pm sounds ridiculous to a lot of parents. They can't believe we get our girls in bed that early. "My kids would never go to sleep that early", they usually say, usually with an accusing inflection in their voices that we must be doing something odd or wrong. . Our kids never want to go to bed that early either, but guess what? We make them because we are in charge.
Rob and I decided early in our parenting lives that we needed more than a few minutes together before we dropped dead in our bed of exhaustion. We needed time to decompress, to be quiet, to eat Oreos and watch TV shows that turned our brains to mush for just a little while. Only when we did all these things did we feel like we could connect with each other on a human level.
Just this last year, we started letting Maddie, our 10 yr. old stay up till 8pm. Whitney goes to bed at 7:45pm, Belle at 7:30pm sharp. But for 10 whole years the magic number was 7:30pm. It worked for us.
What works for you?